I am so guilty of this. You’re out and about, posting a picture of yourself on social media and someone gives you a compliment. You say “thanks, but I’m really not that pretty. Thanks, but I bought this dress years ago.”
Why can’t we just say thank you? When someone gives us a compliment about our children have you noticed the different responses? When someone tells me how adorable my kids are I say something like “thank you! I know isn’t he just the cutest?”
Why are we okay with accepting and reiterating compliments for our children and not ourselves?
I’m certain a lot of this has to do with standards set by our society. It’s socially acceptable to post a selfie, but if we brag too much, we’re just conceited. Not okay.
We’re taught we should have confidence, but if there’s too much, it makes other people uncomfortable. Now, I’m not saying we should be conceited, but we should be able to take a simple compliment.
I had an elderly client a few months ago who was the absolute sweetest woman in the world. Every single time I came to her home she would compliment my beauty. It made me uncomfortable and I didn’t know what to say. I expressed this to her and she said “you just say thank you.”
The more I think about this, the more I realize how correct she is. Are we really so uncomfortable in our own bodies that when someone compliments us we can’t say a simple thank you?
Work on saying it with me. Thank you to anyone who has ever complimented us! It’s not conceited, it’s not rude. When we simply say thank you, we’re reinforcing our own confidence and appreciating others for noticing something wonderful.
Next time someone gives you a compliment remember to be grateful and not put yourself down! You are beautiful, that dress is amazing and you’re rocking that new hairstyle!
Thank you to those who take the time to compliment all of our life’s successes.
Also, a big thank you to everyone who has joined our blog recently. I couldn’t do this without you!