Being a mom in 2017 is very difficult. You would think with all the mommy blogs and internet advice, studies and lists of what to do and not, it would be easier. However, it’s not.
Speaking of studies; as this recent study says mothers are a lot more stressed and unhappy than fathers. Probably, because when there is a mistake made with a child, moms are mostly blamed for the mistakes. Also, people of the internet are freakin’ mean. Truly, how did we get to this point? But, I digress. As I was saying, ways to make life easier for mamas.
- Do not ask for advice on Facebook. I mean, you know, do whatever you want, but let me tell you what is going to happen. You’re going to get so much advice, it will be hard to process. Then, as you are trying to decide which piece of use, you will likely be ridiculed by someone. Just trust me, don’t do it. Ask someone you trust for advice, or go with your gut. A phone call to a family member might be just the best idea, ever!
- Keep your friends close. Great friends will keep you sane. Just because your BFF may not have kids does not mean you should disconnect from them. It’s quite the opposite, actually. You will probably find your kids without friends are the ones you can really count on.
- Don’t be a mommy martyr. Your kids can do things for themselves. I promise. Our toddler clears his own plate and often gets his own snack from the cupboard. Call me as lazy as you’d like. I refuse to be a mommy martyr. My coffee is warm most days and it makes me happy. Continue to do what you love.
- Find a good babysitter. I think this one speaks for itself. If you can’t nail down a specific sitter a lot of services will send someone as needed. Or, ask family members to help out, as needed.
- Read mom blogs and articles with an understanding it’s mostly opinions. Sometimes paid opinions. I love blogging and my mom blog, but a lot of mom blogs are written with a sponsor. Meaning, the author is paid to write on the certain topic or about a product. I do this myself, so I am just as guilty. Just pay attention to what you are reading. A post will say if it is sponsored, take each piece of advice with this information and decipher as you would like.
- Internet connections are as good as those in real life! I am part of a mom group on Instagram and I truly love the ladies in my group. No, we haven’t met, but I feel that I can tell them anything. If you have a connection like this as well you may know how wonderful it is.
- Ask your partner for help. If you need help, ask for it! My biggest mistake as a new mom was thinking my husband would immediately understand when I needed help and step in. He had no idea if I was struggling if I didn’t say anything. He is not a mind reader, neither am I. Keeping communication open with your partner will make your life much easier.
- Keep in mind no one has a perfect life. When our friends post photos on social media it is easy to think their life is perfect. I promise you, it is not. We all have struggles. Some are willing to share those struggles, others keep them hidden. We all have our own way of coping. Do not get caught up in those perfectly posed Instagram posts. I was just laughing with my husband about our Christmas cards. We went to the Grand Canyon last year and I thought it would be the perfect place to take a photo. I brought my “fancy camera” and set the timer. Our son was so cranky and my husband and I were arguing about something. Of course, you would never know that looking at the picture. There is always something happening behind the scenes you are not aware of. Remember that.
- Use technology to your advantage. There are so many new tech devices for new moms I would have loved to use just a few years ago. My favorite being the Owlet (and no, they didn’t sponsor this post), the Baby Brezza is another great one. Not to mention the many nursing apps and let’s face it, sometimes those video games and TV shows keep our kids busy for awhile so we can get things done! Do not feel guilty about using these devices. They are truly so helpful.
Becoming a parent is difficult, no matter what era you parent in. Our children will have their own unique struggles raising their children, as our parents did before us. I hope this helps give you a fresh perspective and possibly make parenting a bit easier.