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LYPBB Challenge Day 12: Pay It Forward and a Giveaway!

Did you know that helping others is scientifically proven to help you as well? According to an article by Dr. Konrath at Psychology today, “volunteering is associated with lower depression, increased well-being, and a 22% reduction in the later risk of dying.” So basically, taking your time to help others can help extend your life! That is absolutely amazing.

When I find myself in a rut, I also find that I want to help someone, because it does make me feel better. However, being a Mom and finding the time to volunteer is not always easy; but I do find it easy to do simple acts of kindness throughout the day. Today I challenge you to do the same: pay for a friend’s coffee, take some cookies to your neighbor, and if you do not have the funds to help someone simply being there or sharing a message is more than enough.

When we pay it forward, we take our minds off of ourselves and start to think of the world. I challenge you to have a wonderful day of helping others!

In honor of paying it forward today, I am going to be doing a giveaway. A few weeks ago I was fortunate to be the winner of a giveaway from Writing Mother Fashionista, and I would like to pay this forward to you guys. To be entered in the giveaway, please comment here or on any of my social media pages and share my blog. The giveaway will be open for a week, and the drawing will be for a $25.00 gift card to Macy’s. Good luck!!

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Source: Psychology Today; https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-empathy-gap/201308/the-caring-cure-can-helping-others-help-yourself

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LYPBB Challenge Day 11: Try Meditation

Zumba requires coordination, guys. I made a total ass of myself yesterday, but I will say it was pretty fun. How did your new exercises go? I am totally certain you were not the person in class sticking your leg in the air when it was supposed to be on the ground. So, I will venture to guess that you had more luck than me! However, I will keep trying, because as Daniel Tiger says, “Keep trying, you’ll get better.”

Anyway, for today’s challenge, I am going to ask all of you to try meditation, if you aren’t already doing it. If you are doing it, I challenge you to try something new; guided, shorter, longer, or unguided.

I discovered meditation last July when I began yoga. I did not take my practice seriously at the time and felt I was really bad at meditation because I could never focus on nothing. It is seriously tough. Then I had a car accident in November, and afterward, I had very bad anxiety. I decided to try meditation again and this time used a guided meditation made for anxiety. It has been so helpful for me. There are many health benefits associated with meditation, as well. You can find the full list from WebMD here.

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Just a few of the benefits include lowering blood pressure and improving your immune system and concentration. There are many more benefits and one of the biggest ones for our Love Your Post-Baby Body challenge is that meditation is often about acceptance and peace. When we come to accept ourselves, we can love ourselves. Instead of focusing on all the things we hate, we can see what we love and focus on even more important things in our lives. Meditation has allowed me to let go of my frustrations and see my dreams more clearly and go after them.

If you need help with your meditation there are many channels on youtube dedicated to guided meditations; I would begin there. Give it a try and tell me what you think!

Live long and prosper, friends!

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LYPBB Challenge Days 8 & 9: Take a Break and Connect with Your Emotions. 

When I wrote this idea down for yesterday and today, I was planning on bringing positivity and super rays of sunshine, but today I just can’t do it.

As yesterday was Mother’s Day I took a much-needed break and didn’t write anything. I’m sure all you moms can understand. I hope you relaxed as well!

Last year on Mother’s Day I was completely different. I wanted to be left the eff alone. In fact, I told my husband to take the kids and go somewhere so I could just be alone for a while. He didn’t, and I’m glad for that. This year was entirely different. I wanted to spend as much time with my kids as possible.

You see, so much has changed since last Mother’s Day. We have lost our grandmother, grandfather and watched our friends lose children. All of this reminded me of just how much I wanted to spend the day with my kids. So, that’s what I did! We had an awesome day of fun; we went bowling and had dinner at Grandma’s house. I hope you got a break from your kids if needed, and some much-needed alone time.

The day after Mother’s Day is always a bummer for me because it’s back to the same old grind. (I need a mother’s week; maybe that would make me feel better.) However, it lets me connect with my emotions. I’m often sad on the day after Mother’s Day because it reminds me of children we have lost, as well. I always feel like we’re missing these children and that feeling is so much more present on Mother’s Day and the subsequent days are difficult.

When we are learning to love ourselves, I believe it is absolutely vital to view our emotions also. Is there a reason you’re upset, happy, sad? Why? Find out what is going on in your mind; take the time to connect with your emotions. If you need a good cry, or to scream into a pillow, just do it.

Society says that women should be these exuberant, outgoing beings and if we aren’t then something is wrong. Once you have a family, you are also responsible for their feelings. As the famous saying goes, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” So now, not only are we responsible for ourselves but our entire family. That’s a lot for one person to handle. This is why we need to recognize our feelings and express them, not sweep them away and feel ashamed for feeling a certain way. Today I want you to honor yourself and your feelings.

It’s okay to feel something other than happy. And, once you realize this, you may find happiness is easier to come by.

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LYPBB Challenge Day 6: Clean Out Your Closet

I have a hilarious story to share with you guys. After I had my first child, I thought getting back into your pre-baby clothes was something you did immediately after you returned from the hospital. I excitedly went home, walked into my closet and tried to put on a pair of pants and shirt that I wore before I was even pregnant. I’m sure you can imagine the results. It was like trying to stuff a full-sized walrus into an infant’s onesie. Not a great idea.

I soon realized it was going to be quite some time before I was putting those clothes on again. The gravity of that really tugged at my heart strings. I was only 23 and had spent most of my life wishing I could be a supermodel and existing the last few years based on my looks. Not something I would recommend.

However, soon after this encounter, I did something that really empowered me. I got rid of my old clothes that no longer fit. I did keep some of the expensive jeans in the hope that I would be able to wear them again (because I hate wasting money), but everything else was given away. I did an ad for free clothing on Craigslist and let them go.

Once I did this, I was able to let go of the idea of my past self. I had changed so much after having my child; it wasn’t worth holding onto old memories and images of someone I no longer was.

My challenge for you today is to do the same. Go through your closet and get rid of clothes that don’t fit or clothes that you just aren’t going to wear anymore. Even if you just set them aside in the garage or attic, this will help.

Becoming a mother does change us, for the better! I’m not saying you can’t wear revealing clothes. I do that a lot, actually — probably much to my neighbors’ dismay — but they’re also clothes that fit. I’m not trying to squeeze my size ten ass into a six, though. Wear clothes that fit your personality, even if it’s a bit different than before you had your baby. Let go of clothes that don’t fit or just aren’t you anymore.

As you do this, you will begin to realize and accept yourself even more as a mother and person. Which will ultimately lead you to loving your post-baby bod.

Feel confident knowing you have a closet full of items that fit and you love!

{Wondering what the LYPBB Challenge is all about? Start here!}

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